Someone I love very much is sick and in the hospital right now. They are all the way across the country from me and it is awful. I want to fly there immediately just to be around if they want/need anything and yet I have a family and responsibilities that don’t make that possible.

Fortunately they are surrounded by family and friends who love them as dearly as I do. And I know it’s not about me. At all. I guess I’m posting this because I’m trying to figure out how to “be there” for someone when I can’t “be there” for someone.

As with most things, caring for others has gotten incredibly complicated recently. I get that we shouldn’t put the burden on the sick person to tell us what they need. They’re clearly dealing with enough.

But that can trip up perfectionist people pleasers to the point of inaction. I’ve already second guessed several things, deeming them not personal enough, not helpful enough, not practical enough.

I know I’m not alone – and I’d be so grateful for any comments about gifts you’ve given or gotten that you loved! Thank you so much and may you and all your loved ones be well!